The Emotions of Moving

Setting aside completely all the anxiety and frustration that goes into finding your new home whether it be an rental or purchase, there are a ton of emotions that come into play when you move. It starts when you begin packing the boxes and stays with you at least until your new residence begins to feel like home.

Now I would like to point out I did NOT help move any of the my things this time. I had to be out of time on moving day and my boyfriend’s parents and a few of their friends stepped up like little magical moving fairies. I will be forever grateful. However, even with the help I still experienced all the fantastic emotions of moving. Let me elaborate.

Excitement

After a year of my absent landlord and old green bathroom bathroom I was absolutely stoked to be able to wave goodbye to all issues I was dealing with and start new. I have a new space to decorate, set up and make my own. Change can be fun and inspiring. Plus, having a sink that was made after 1960 is a plus.

Dread

Packing sucks. I have so much stuff and it becomes super evident as I packed it all. Then I had to take my bed and my shelves apart. Then there’s the cleaning. So much cleaning. Not to mention moving all of the boxes and furniture. Granted, I didn’t have to move anything this time but I know the feeling of dread that comes over you when you see how many boxes there are or if you’ve been moving things for awhile and there is still more. There’s always more! I don’t want to shovel in the winter and I won’t want to mow the lawn. What was I thinking? I don’t want to adult!

Anger

Could I honestly have any more crap? I get so mad at myself for all the crap I own every time I move. It’s too much. My new closets are smaller then my old ones so I need to organize things differently which makes me mad. And I’m guaranteed to let out a curse word or two if I stub my toe on one of the millions of boxes I’m trying to organize. Is there ever an end to the unpacking? Will this ever all be organized? Never again! I will live here forever!

Joy

Look how cute my new place is! Check out the sun porch! Have you seen the water pressure in the shower? Hell yeah! When things started to click into place I could not have been happier. All the doors lock, there is a yard and I don’t have to live in my old apartment anymore. Yay!

Sadness

I was excited to leave my old apartment. I couldn’t wait. But there was still that moment of sadness when I left my keys behind and shut the door. Change can be inspiring but it can also be tough. I feel old as I start the next chapter of my life. I’m also scared. Did I make the right decision? What if there are issues with the new place? What if?!

Hope

Change can be tough, but it’s all going to be okay. It’s exciting to moive into my first house even if I am renting. Now I can finally get my first dog! There is added responsibility but also it’s great to learn while some of the responsibility is still the landlord’s. I can do this. I can be a grown up. Watch me!

Did I miss any emtions? I probably did. Anxiety is another emotion I will feel consistently until all the unpacking is done and everything is settled. I’m sure there is more. I’m ready to get off this roller coaster of emotion. The new place is 99% put together and I cannot wait until it’s done.

Usually it’s exciting to think about having my own house someday, but for now I don’t really want to think about it. That will be one hell of a roller coaster. For now I will enjoy my yard and search for a puppy.

Five Lessons Twentysomething can Learn from Wonder Woman

Two nights ago I finally saw Wonder Woman. As someone who normally gravitates toward Marvel films I wasn’t sure what to expect. Yes, I had heard multiple raving reviews of the film, but I think it’s important not to go into a showing with your expectations too high. This has ruined movies for me in the past.

Mind. Blown. I love this movie. It is incredibly well done. Gal Gadot, Patty Jenkins and the entire cast and crew did an amazing job creating this film. I left the theater feeling incredibly entertained and inspired.

Now that I have had a few days to process and continue to appreciate the film I have a few takeaways for all those Twentysomethings out there.

***SPOILER ALART*** While I won’t be giving away the ending I will be referencing parts of the film so if you have not seen it yet and want to be completed surprised, STOP READING!

1. The Outfit Matters

“How can a woman possibly fight in this?!” Diana asks this questions about one of many outfits she tries on to cover her Wonder Woman outfit and blend into 1940s London. Now, I don’t think any of us out there are looking for the perfect outfit to fight the god of war, but what you wear is important. If it is uncomfortable, restricting or it doesn’t suit  the activity you will be doing in it then it isn’t the right choice. Find what works.

2.Choose to do something

When Diana says she wants to help fight the battle raging in No Man’s Land, Steve tells her it’s not what they are there for but she fights the battle anyway. Sometimes you have to choose between doing something and doing nothing. Always do something. Act, don’t standby.

3. Be prepared

It is always better to be prepared. Diana’s mother is hesitant to let Diana learn to fight at the beginning of the movie, but she eventually gives in and its a good thing she does. Diana learns to kick some serious ass. It is always better to be prepared for whatever you are facing whether it’s a tough test or interview or a simple recipe. Be prepared, don’t make it harder for yourself before you start.

4. Be a leader

“What I do is not up to you.” This is Diana’s response when she enters the gala in search of General Ludendorff and Steve tries to stop her. Be a leader. No, I’m not asking you to chase a villain. Heck, I’m not even asking introverts to leave their comfort zone to become a vocal leader. Be your own leader. Don’t let other people make your decisions.

5. Believe

“Maybe it’s not what you deserve, but what you believe.” Steve Trevor says this to Diana when the war around her rages on and she begins to lose faith in mankind. It is important to believe. Believe in yourself and you can do amazing things.

These are only a few of the takeaway that can be found in Wonder Woman. I encourage you to see the film. I promise you will walk away feeling inspired and ready to take on the future.

 

 

 

Coping with Literally Everything

You know how you said you were stressed in college?  Like I have a paper, lab report, painting and video project all due on the same day?  Yeah.  It sucks.  Like literally.  Nothing more stressful than that, right?  WRONG.

It will only get worse.  Now it’s launching an new season, juggling a long distance relationship, insanely long nights in the office, and right when you think you are getting a grip on everything, losing a loved-one. Not to mention you aren’t simply letting yourself down if you fail, you may be letting down an entire organization.

Okay that is just me, but we all know that feeling.  It’s finding a job, or keeping your job.  Paying loans, bills and your car that has decided that now is the time to break.  It’s family, friends, work…or not having those things.  It’s hard.

But before you decide that you give up and you’re staying in college forever, hear me out.  It doesn’t always have to be a bad thing; stress can be your friend.

It is proven that stress can act as a burst of energy.  Thus this burst can be a great push to get your gears in motion and motivate you to be productive!  I can say that some of my best work has been done when I am under tight time constraints.  The trick is staying on top of your stress, not letting it over-whelm you, and guess who has some tricks for you…this gal.

Breathe.

It sounds cheesy, but it works.  So don’t knock until you try it.  Feel stressed at work, during an exam, taking care of your kid that won’t stop crying?  Just sit up straight, close your eyes, open up your chest and take three deep breaths.  If you are like me with three different inhalers, maybe you can multi-task.

Take a Break.

If breathing doesn’t work, TAKE A BREAK.  This can be as small as taking a quick lap around the office to planning a weekend away in another city.  Reward yourself for your hard work and turn your brain off for a second.  Watch that extra episode of your favorite Netflix show, treat yourself to a bath, take that extra second getting up in the morning… anything that can keep you relaxed and your stress down.

Exercise.

Yes, yes another cliché and if you are like me that is always the last thing on your mind.  But you ever hear anything called a runner’s high?  Exercising makes you happy!  You don’t have to go on a three mile run.  Gross.  Who wants to do that?  And if you do can you teach me your ways?  Kidding.  Kinda.  But you don’t have to do a serious workout. Go on a walk, dance around like an idiot, go outside and try to catch a squirrel… just get movin’!

Don’t Self-Medicate.

Let me better explain.  Don’t self-medicate with BAD things.  Drugs, alcohol, putting Burt’s Bees on your eyelids…that’s bad, don’t do that.  Commonly the effects of these drugs will actually make you more stressed.  Yes even the Marijuana.  Listen to your D.A.R.E classes, kids.  Instead look into positive alternatives.  Looking to do some deep breathing?  Try yoga, it’s relaxing and is kinda the king of stress-relief.  They even let you nap at the end!  Thirsty?  Make some tea.  It’s good for you and will boost your immune system which stress can take a toll at.  Looking to put something on your eye-lids…really just don’t.  It was a bad time for our world’s youth.  Literally do anything else besides that.

Wake Up Early.

Get up an hour earlier than you do, or even a half an hour.  It opens up so much more time to your day, allowing you to be more productive.  Eat breakfast before you go to work, take the long way on your walk to class, or even just get there early and knock another thing off that list. It’s the morning!  Embrace it!  You are refreshed.  You don’t have a bad day hanging over you preventing you from being motivated.

Reach Out.

Truth is we are all confused, and stressed, and depressed, and feel like we are alone in this world.  But guess what.  We aren’t.  There are a million people that are just like you that would love to help.  Just venting or getting things off your chest can feel so freeing, and will help you relax.  Plus people have advice.  Good advice!  Take it!

Let it go.

Don’t let stress control your life.  It will pass.  But sometimes it won’t.  At that point you may have to realize it just isn’t worth it.  This can come in so many forms.  A bad habit, a destructive relationship, a job that you aren’t happy with… sometimes you are just better off without them.  That’s a lie.  Always you are better off without them.  Take care of yourself and you will feel better.  Also, you have Frozen stuck in your head? I do.

Stress is a part of life.  But by staying on top of it and transforming it into a positive energy, you can to it all.

Confessions of an Overexplainer

I overexplain everything. Sometimes I can’t stop the words from coming out of my mouth, but most of the time I feel a need to keep talking. Even when I see comprehension or boredom on the face of the person I am conversing with I still keep talking.

The thing is I think I may unintentionally insult people, confuse them or annoy them. So give me a minute to explain these situations to you.

When I go on about something you may have done incorrectly…

I’m not trying to belittle you or continue to point out your mistake. I realize that is probably how it comes across but that’s not what I’m trying to do. I just want to explain it especially if there is one small detail you missed or clarify something to prevent you from making the same mistake in the future. I’m trying to help you.

When I keeping talking about a mistake I made you pointed out…

I want to explain to you why I did what I did even though it was wrong because I want you to understand why it happened. I also want to clarify the issue so I can fix it moving forward.

When I give you the world’s longest answer to a simple question…

I feel like it makes more sense if I give you an abundance of information instead of an abbreviated version. I just want you to get the answer you seek.

When I offer an excuse for ordering fast food instead of making dinner…

I feel guilty for doing it and I need to explain to you that I don’t always do it. I’m not lazy and I can cook. I just want you to know that.

When I ask you for a favor and explain why I need it long after you have agreed…

It’s because I don’t want you to think I’m trying to take advantage of you. I want you to know just how much I appreciate it and how great you are.

I think it’s safe to save I have a problem. Fortunately I have finally stopped denying it and plan to work on it moving forward. So please if I babble at you and continue to explain something that does not need to be explained please do not be offended, annoyed or insulted. Bear with me as I try to break the habit.