Confessions of an Overexplainer

I overexplain everything. Sometimes I can’t stop the words from coming out of my mouth, but most of the time I feel a need to keep talking. Even when I see comprehension or boredom on the face of the person I am conversing with I still keep talking.

The thing is I think I may unintentionally insult people, confuse them or annoy them. So give me a minute to explain these situations to you.

When I go on about something you may have done incorrectly…

I’m not trying to belittle you or continue to point out your mistake. I realize that is probably how it comes across but that’s not what I’m trying to do. I just want to explain it especially if there is one small detail you missed or clarify something to prevent you from making the same mistake in the future. I’m trying to help you.

When I keeping talking about a mistake I made you pointed out…

I want to explain to you why I did what I did even though it was wrong because I want you to understand why it happened. I also want to clarify the issue so I can fix it moving forward.

When I give you the world’s longest answer to a simple question…

I feel like it makes more sense if I give you an abundance of information instead of an abbreviated version. I just want you to get the answer you seek.

When I offer an excuse for ordering fast food instead of making dinner…

I feel guilty for doing it and I need to explain to you that I don’t always do it. I’m not lazy and I can cook. I just want you to know that.

When I ask you for a favor and explain why I need it long after you have agreed…

It’s because I don’t want you to think I’m trying to take advantage of you. I want you to know just how much I appreciate it and how great you are.

I think it’s safe to save I have a problem. Fortunately I have finally stopped denying it and plan to work on it moving forward. So please if I babble at you and continue to explain something that does not need to be explained please do not be offended, annoyed or insulted. Bear with me as I try to break the habit.

 

Things Can Change

It’s been one heck of a crazy year. So many things have changed for me. Fortunately, most of those changes are for the good. As twentysomethings we’re at that time in our life where big decisions are made, change is commonplace and we’re all navigating vastly different courses.

Around this time last year I was terrified. Not only was I changing jobs less than one year after accepting the first position of my career, but one of the factors in play for this decision was my boyfriend. Now, please don’t miss understand me, I was smart with this decision. I made sure to find a job in my field, that I wanted and where I got a raise.  However, Mike’s location did play a factor and it was scary to include that in my decision making process.

The first two months were a HUGE transition period. First, adjusting to living under someone else’s roof which Mike’s parents generously offered me while I was apartment hunting and then setting up the new place while acclimating to a new type of position and worrying that I had made a mistake and I would find myself alone and heartbroken in my boyfriend’s hometown.

Fortunately, here I am a year later and my heart and my life are still in tact. There have been a few bumps and curves along the way, but that is to be expected. Despite the frozen tundra that enveloped the apartment when the heat went out and the ant invasion of 2017, I am moving soon to a pet friendly house where I can finally own my first puppy.

Over the last year I ran my first half marathon, bought my first set of brand new tires, attended a Packer playoff game and became a derby girl. I built my first 3D puzzle, published another poem and stayed in my first all-inclusive resort. I even cleaned out my closet.

Looking back over the last 365 days, it feels more like a lifetime. I am proud of all that I have accomplished and to have learned from the mistakes I made. The move was scary, but ultimately the right decision for me. Thank god! Things can change and that’s okay. Embrace the changes, attack the challenges and live life to the fullest.

To everyone that has Feels Good at First stuck in their head, here you go:

20 Animal Photos that Perfectly Illustrate Adulting as a Twentysomething

Recently I have gotten the sense there are a number of people out there having a tough time right now. I’m not sure if it’s the pollen or the time of the year or what the issue is. However, I thought it might be a good idea to post a few animal photos to try to put some smiles back on the faces of those having a tough time.

So I scoured all my files and gathered a bunch together to help illustrate adulting as a twentysomething told through animal photos. I hope you like them and, most importantly, I hope you smile. Enjoy!

1. Me right after I graduated college:

Who me?

 

2. Actual photographic evidence of me trying to stand out on my resume so someone will hire me into an entry level position:

Trying to stand out on your resume

3. She’s looks like doing it better than I am. Should I be doing what she’s doing?

Should I ge doing things like her

4. If I pretend I know what you’re talking about maybe you’ll drop it and then I can Google it later.

IfI act like I understand will you stop asking ahrd questions

 

5. Me when I successfully make a recipe: “I’m an amazing cook! Feel free to call me Betty Crocker!”

I'm an amazing cook

6. Me suffering through a recipe gone wrong: “This tastes like crap. I am never making this recipe again. Maybe I should just run out for take out?”

Less than average cooking skills

7. Please may I take a break from adulting?

Can I take a break from adulting

 

8. Me when I unload the dishwasher: Nailed it! I am the queen of being grown up!

Nailed it.JPG

 

9. There are not enough hours in the day to get everything done.

Too tired

10. Free food! It’s a miracle! Take some and run!

Because I suck at cooking.JPG

 

11.  Must escape! Can I go back to being a kid again?!

Must escape responsbilities

12. How I feel  as I look into my 401k options. 

Approach with caution

13. Me after I wash and fold all my laundry in one day: “Check me out! I’m a real adult!”

Can the weekend last forever

14. Eats one salad. “I’m so healthy! This means I’m covered all week right?”

I ate a salad I'm so healthy.JPG

 

15. I cannot be bothered with cleaning today, it’s imperative that I just sit here and do nothing.

I just don't care anymore.JPG

 

16. Actual footage of me leaving the office on Fridays.

TGIF

17. When you’re the only twentysomething in an important meeting.

Is it obvious that I stand out

18. Me on pay day while I wait to be handed my check.

I did it.jpg

19. If I dress the part and try to look as cute as possible maybe no one will know I’m nervous.

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20. But WHY am I no longer allowed to have winter break?

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That’s all folks! I hope these photos brought at least a little joy into your day. Have a wonderful weekend!